Most individuals can be at risk from a constant negative cycle of failure, rejection, feelings of worthlessness and seeing no way out and having no coping skills to break the cycle. But, add ADHD, and these individuals can be at a higher risk of suffering from drug abuse and self-medication as a result of this cycle.
Self-medication is a way to try to alleviate symptoms and cope with the emotional pain and distress associated with unsuccessfully treated or untreated ADHD. Individuals self-medicate to obtain a sense of control, calmness or a high or rush.
Individuals with ADHD use caffeine as a relatively safe way to self-medicate to either calm them down or give them a buzz and boost of energy and concentration.
Overeating can become a form of self-medication too if the person rewards – or punishes himself with food or eats too much (or little) based on his emotions – because he’s happy or depressed or bored.
Doctor hopping for prescription shopping is a sophisticated form of self-medicating. Going from doctor to doctor to get different prescriptions for different physical or psychological conditions – real or pretence – such as drugs for pain control, anxiety, panic disorders and/or depression. These individuals become experts at symptoms of illnesses to get scripts for a variety of ailments that may or may not be legitimate. The medications are used to mask the problems and symptoms caused by the disorder.
All couples encounter problems eventually in their relationship, yet having ADHD has a tendency to muddle these issues. ADHD symptoms can be exceptionally unpredictable – an adult with ADHD might be to a great degree open and adoring one day however hyper-focused in two or three hours. This can be extremely befuddling for an accomplice to manage, particularly when their adored one all of a sudden appears to be icy or inaccessible for reasons unknown.
Adults with ADHD additionally have a tendency to have short circuits that can be set off by nearly anything. The accomplice of such an adult is frequently left confounded and furious about the upheavals that appear to happen suddenly. It’s not really astounding that adults with ADHD have a tendency to have more conjugal problems, various relational unions, and higher occurrences of separation or partition.
When you have ADHD/ADD, it can put a strain on your relationships, whether family, intimate, friendship or work. You might easily get frustrated or irritated when your loved ones nag you about getting organized or minimizing clutter at home. You might have a hard time meeting deadlines resulting in your boss becoming disappointed in you. Your “irresponsibility” might be catching the ire of your co-workers and they might even feel resentment towards you.
Having ADHD/ADD can lead to embarrassment, disappointments, frustrations, and eventual loss of confidence. You’ll feel like it will be hard to take control of your life again. This is the reason why an accurate diagnosis of ADHD/ADD is very important because it allows for proper treatment.
With no one to accept them for who they are and no meaningful relationship to lean back on, the victim can be very disoriented, sad, and distressed. Their life will be full of frustrations, and embarrassments and their self-esteem will sink even lower when no one wants to spend time with or around them. They will have no sense of self-confidence and will tend to neglect even their appearance as they slowly sink into a world of depression and drug abuse.
An adult with ADHD confronts a considerable measure of difficulties at work. Poor time management, disruption, and distractibility are quite recently a portion of the symptoms that can disable one’s efficiency and execution. Indeed, even symptoms like interfering with others or shouting obtuse articulations can have a negative effect on one’s relationship with collaborators and associates. These characteristics increment one’s danger of losing the possibility of promotion or getting terminated.
Another issue adults with ADHD battle with at work is their requirement for incitement and fervour. Practically every occupation requires doing commonplace, monotonous errands, which can be a lot more difficult for people who have ADHD. Therefore, many adults with ADHD are a lot more prone to procrastination and being behind with work.
It’s vital for adults with ADHD to have the capacity to look for some kind of employment they consider intriguing. When they discover a vocation they feel energetic about, their execution typically takes off and their symptoms appear to smaller affect their work.
Adults with ADHD will probably encounter tension, melancholy, low disappointment resilience, and mood swings. Specialists trust that these emotional problems are either brought about by ADHD themselves or their troubles managing the symptoms. These problems likewise increment the danger of substance mishandling or compulsion, getting into car accidents, incautious shopping, or eating disorders.
Socializing with someone who has the hyperactive/impulsive form of adult ADHD can be a little like crossing a minefield. Such people are often very intense, and it doesn’t take much to irritate them. Besides being prone to lose their temper, they may easily become frustrated and impatient. Their impulsivity can lead to reckless behaviour as well as snap decisions that often don’t work out well for anyone.
Being an adult and suffering from ADHD can be very disturbing. When people do not recognize that you are suffering from a neurological disorder, they will tend to call you names such as lazy, stupid, psycho etc. This is why it is important for you to read this book if you have a loved one suffering from ADHD because it will help you understand them better and see that they have no control over their actions and ADHD-induced tendencies.
Financial and Work Difficulties
Managing finances might be difficult. Many sufferers are always struggling to monitor unpaid bills, tend to incur late fees on mortgages and loans, and may incur debts due to their impulsive use of credit cards. People who are suffering from ADHD/ADD may also experience difficulties and challenges in terms of their careers. There is a strong sense of underachievement within these people, too. They also have difficulty keeping their jobs, following office rules and procedures, sticking to the regular 9-to-5 job schedule, and meeting due dates and deadlines.
Physical and Mental Health Problems
The symptoms of ADHD may seem a tad trivial on the surface, but these same symptoms can lead to many underlying problems that would be more dangerous. The impact on health would be seen when the adult with ADHD begins to turn to:
- Compulsive eating – Caused by the stress of life and trying to juggle ADHD with normal coping mechanisms
- Substance abuse – Also as a result of the stress the adult may be suffering from. Many ADHD adults have been found to be smokers; since nicotine has a soothing, calming effect and helps them to blur out all the chaos around them.
- Anxiety – From the fact that many of them are restless and find it hard to stay still. Also, being hyperactive, their minds may be processing a multitude of thoughts all at the same time.
- Chronic stress – This bound to come from all the thinking as well as the inability to lead a normal life like everyone else. For an adult with ADHD, life can be very difficult to handle.
- Low self-esteem – This might ultimately lead to depression or even suicidal thoughts and on top of that, it will render them incapable of interacting with other people because they will feel belittled or not be good enough.
Owing to the tendency of ADHD adults to forget things easily, they may run into problems such as forgetting doctor’s appointments, forgetting to take medicine when they are under medication, skip check-ups, and even ignore instructions on medicines or other such things.
It is not advisable for a person with ADHD to live alone entirely because they would need someone to check up on them every so often and remind them of the important things. Instead of neglecting an adult with ADHD, you should embrace them and help them deal with their condition. ADHD cannot be cured but as we shall see in a later chapter, it can be treated in various ways and this treatment helps with managing the condition.